It is best to look in the mirror and examine what causes this behavior. My hours weren't any shorter and his were on and off fulltime. Isnt that just hurting you both? Life is all about perspective. I am not sure what is prompting me to stay; I do not see a future with him, he doesn't show concern or care for me, and I can visualize myself being better off. But to me you sound like a rapist or child molester telling people that you feel a little guilty about what you did, but you're happy now.
Give them the truth, but at a level where they are emotionally able to understand. Being alone I couldnt work all those extra hours that I was expected to. I hope he heals and learns to love again. I get better at forgiving myself, but it's a loooooooong way. Not to say I should not have moved on for my own self and for my kids who were also blasted by this separation. This could mean he doesn't care but not necessarily. I have been in your shoes — going on one year.
I dont want to leave him I think,I really dont,I just am so unhappy all the time now. But he's still okay with me. I do not regret it, as I am much happier with him, than I was with my ex. Maybe that's not helpful, but it's what came to mind for me, reading this. There was nothing scientific or any detached evaluation of the behaviors. Don't let yourself get that way again in the future. I'm happy to hear you've found happiness despite the turmoil and obvious difficulties.
It's often not about the other person, but about our own weaknesses and areas for growth. Fast forward: He got married had two kids. The probability of getting back together with your soon-to-be ex is nil. Indecent phone and video conversation with another woman. Who else has found happiness in leaving their partner? You did mention that you were also happy. I went to my mother's house and stayed in bed, sobbing, for two weeks.
And I feel guilty and I regret every day what I did to the person I once wanted to spend the rest of my life with. There was no risk in being told updates on the X and that makes it easier to pretend they don't exist and at times keeping yourself sane. He begs me to come home! I truely wanted to work it out with my husband but I couldn't stop wanting to get that hit! It didn't make me feel good, the guilt was killing me. They offer a free weekend retreat for couples who are on the brink of divorce they have an 85% success rate in keeping marriages together. My children suffered through three moves in six months — switching school, varying schedules, and parents with ever changing temperaments.
I destroyed a man who looking back was a great husband. At the back of your mind, try to see things from his point of view too. Have 2 children with him. Use of this site is subject to our and. If there's anything we've both learned it's that to forging a strong bond as husband and wife.
We cooked and baked together. This is a way to exercise the demons that I have been fighting and to hopefully stop someone else from making my same mistake. Whenever you can respect a man as a human but not with comparison with someone else you can name it love. If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please visit. The best thing you can do is to let him go and hope that he can find some sort of new normal and happiness for himself if you care for him at all. That's what tore me apart: that there was nothing to fight for any more.
We both feel trapped due to our inability to go out. Let go of past hurts. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful love spell doctor who helped me with my own problem. After having my son,we both decided I'd be a stay at home I worked and he didnt before. Someone categorically asked that she needs a reference in the bible, where it states that a woman can divorce her husband because he has refused to work. And so every year was n few fight and breaking stuff and moving out ect.