I dated many Narcs since and still have not learned my lesson. The person gives the narcissist attention and praise. This is tougher than I thought it was going to be, if I hear from her I will run to this blog for advice as I am exhausted. You know that feeling good is not the bandage that you require at the expense of others feelings and that is why you do everything that you can, right or wrong, good or bad because it is transient and not lasting. I am in counseling to stay strong. His child whom I know is currently in a critical condition in hospital. I will also send you information on how to handle situations like this.
I think he may try to get in touch. Seriously you need to see a shrink yourself. He controlled all finances, removed every penny from my bank account and took my car. I guess, to you, a narc is special. After a particularly lovely, passionate weekend together, he went out, leaving his facebook open he is usually scrupulous about his privacy. After all of the years of suffering through her crap, she went a little too far, even for someone like her.
If you are in this category, celebrate. All you wanted was a healthy relationship with someone to love and be loved. He now lives with another woman. I have tried to piece together his childhood but he was closed mouth about any of it. Why waste those wonderful attributes on someone who is petty and probably mentally ill? My kids are petrified, he abandoned our dog and every chance he gets another arrest. I said that I wanted to stay friends, and she then did everything to hurt me — ignoring emails etc.
I am going through well right now. Th N was telling a co-worker lies about me that i said things about her which i didnt and basically had her hating my guts. I still do after almost two years and it helps us to heal fully. I found out about the gang bangs. I know this was posted last year and you may not see this response but, if you do, thank you Ann.
I would rather he be a ghost, than hearing him at all. If everyone in the world was allowed to touch my genitals, they would be better people. Which doesnt matter because he doesnt see the kids and has gone no contact. And if you get a chance for the closure you seek, tend to yourself. They push away the very people who might help them.
Will they forgo narcissistic supply in order to protect your feelings, which they don't understand, relate to, or care about? Many people get involved with a narcissist not knowing that they are a narcissist. In the mornings, he makes me coffee and breakfast and talks about himself and his work. I too was married to a narcissist for 32 years, actually I still am but have started the divorce proceedings. Today, I've read up a bit on narcissists, and I understand that being sure that a person is a narcissist takes weeks or maybe even months, I think I might be one. Which I stupidly got angry about, and am so angry with myself for showing any weakness. Yes we all have different brains and this is a constant pain having all our struggles compared with no real understanding of another persons life. U understand what u do but are unable to have feelings other than basic shame and rage.
They rarely apologize and even when they do, it's almost always in a backhanded way that leads to your own misery. A narcissist is a pathological person who lacks the neurology to be empathetic. They need to see you defeated and feeling worthless. Because he was seeking help, I allowed myself to have a little hope. The key is to make people feel like they are the only ones.
I didn't know what that was at the time but I do now!! You'll really thrive when you join this hive! Narcissists can be either very controlled and crafty or some are out of control like a runaway locomotive. Very dangerous the worst of group by a country mile. Not a good relationship to have. My Mom did a number on me. You have been put through it, so your outlook to have to pay it forward is what you can control and how you can beat them and how you can take yourself back! You're welcome to argue whether or not I was autistic before anti-social tendencies but we all know that is tomfollery let's be honest it doesn't matter if your diagnosed what you are diagnosed wtih if it's before you accept yourself.