Fine I want a Divorce! I am deeply sadden by the countless men like you who are leading women away from God and His Christ instead to towards the Truth that God has to free them. Instead of working to repair the damage, she would allowing it to not only continue, but give it space to grow. You can get through this! It causes withdrawal from reality, self pity, loneliness, an endless frustration and ultimately self hatred. When i put myself into his position. I made a point out of researching how to be a better lover, I was open to role play, oral, toys, different positions. I just read my reply out loud to my husband, before posting, and he said I nailed it.
My husband of 22 years no longer seems very attracted to me. And we still talk about our inner feelings while I am touching him and keeping him aroused and that keeps our communication open. Our kids were older when he told me this so we worked at focusing on ourselves more. But it probably needs to be dealt with, no avoided. May have to get a lock for the basement door.
As for touching himself a lot. I have tried to talk about it ,but it turns into a fight every time. Over 4 years from the original post which was not me. It is a major problem with the web, that errors can be multiplied innocently. He will make excuses or not be able to get it up or not keep it up.
My mother had always been a tense overprotective, so it surprised me that she never sent me a letter or called for almost two months. He is not like this before i got pregnant. Take it from somebody who has been there and lived with this pain including the divorce. The problem is not the masturbating that either of you do, it is privacy and communication. Fast forward again to this past Friday. We both felt broken for a few days but have slowly got back to where we needed to be.
I think you are using masturbation as a cover up, to numb the pain and to avoid the real issue, that your marriage needs some work. There is simply no excuse for it besides plain weakness. Ultimately I put him out of his sweet misery, but on my terms, He had to lie there on his back perfectly still and could not touch me until I told him he could. Every night I am being awake due to the bed moving cause he was so busy pleasuring him yes I did see it with my own eyes his hand rubbing him self. We have been married just over a year now and have a precious baby.
To recognize that you still love your husband, but certain behaviors being a mix of choice and compulsion you hate. If not, can you get her involved in something knitting group, book club, bar hopping? Create a new level of transparency in your marriage. Blessing as you continue pursing your husband and give the reigns and leadership back to him. The difficult part is telling him that from a position of love. As for what you did wrong, this may have nothing to do with you, believe it or not. I realise I have been very niave. As a pastor and an older man, six sons with my wife, now 5 are grown, 4 married with their own children, and raising their own teenaged sons.
Then he comes running out trying to explain and blurts all our business out in front of his brother and my mom and 2 yr old. His letters showed how much he wanted to learn about God. What can I do, I want to please him and I want to be pleased too!!! Posted via Mobile Device I know is perfectly normal, but what is it that man would want to touch themselves, when they can be touch by somebody else? I was finishing my masters 3 years later. I was actually in the middle of talking to my husband about this when you posted your reply. When I saw my wife I thought she was the most beautiful woman I had ever saw. Not sure where to turn. How are we so blind? If your sex life is good and he is invested in your pleasure, does it interfere? I was a busy working mother with 3 children, and sometimes life seems to get in the way of husband and wife relations sadly.
Also, it explains why certain men can only orgasm via masturbation and not through intercourse. The problem is that she usually has no idea how much it costs him, and he probably underestimates what it will cost her to do something. Get away from the zoo you are living in and really talk, then get a room and screw each other's brains out. So I let him off the hook and said I was going to be late for work and would call him later. You obviously have put a lot of thought into core issues and clever ways to heal. No big deal and completely put it out of my mind.